5/2/09

Let me take a moment to feel sorry for myself...

You know what? I'm tired of being single. So tired of it.

I do realize that it's probably my fault.

I don't go to a singles ward - too many bad experiences.
I don't go out with friends - I don't have many (and those I do have aren't single).
I don't go to any singles activities - I have no one to go with me (read comment above).

Yesterday I decided that I was in fact going to start going to the singles ward after I got out of my family ward. So I looked up the time of the ward I'm supposed to attend: 1:00 PM. Not too bad. Except I don't get out of my ward until 2:00 PM. Which would mean I would have to ask to be released from my calling - and I've come to really like those litte five year-olds.

So, just to recap: I AM SO READY NOT TO BE SINGLE ANYMORE.

But what more can I do? (I'm seriously asking for suggestions, because I'm at a loss.)

11 comments:

Trichelle said...

I'm sorry you feel that way fressia. my suggestion might not be fitting to you, but when I get out of my comfort zone is when I tend to meet the most people. So maybe going to the singles ward that you aren't so fond of will work. and ps I find it hard to believe that you don't have many friends. you are (or I should say were) the most sociable person. Come back here to utah and all my friends are single! they are fun to go out with:)

Trichelle said...

ok so when i said "or should i say were" i just meant that it's been FOREVER since I've seen you, not implying that you have changed that about you. make sense?

Anonymous said...

It can't hurt Fressia. (going to the S-ward) I will drive out there and go with you as much as possible.

Fressia Vaughn said...

Brit - I don't think that's appropriate. Trichelle - I'm not social at all anymore. I'm actually very much a completely different person. The only things the same are pretty much that I'm still loud and I still don't sit still much...
AND BOTH TO BOTH OF YOU: I teach primary so I can't go to the singles ward... therein lies the problem.

Sidney Cottle said...

Okay....do I sound lame if I say online dating? I do?! So what?!! I know people who have MET really cool people online!!! Why not give it a try? But a SAFE try.

How about the new branch you're working at? Any cute single guys OR cool awesome girl to become new BF's with?

I'm being serious with all of these...a little less serious with this last one....but why not. Do any of your 5 year olds have any single uncles or cousins they want to set you up with? Hmmmm....

I'm sorry you're feeling this way Fressia!! It must be frustrating. I wish I had a definite answer. I wish I knew someone where you lived who was as hot as you. I'll keep thinking!!

Nicole said...

Well.. there should be another singles ward maybe it is at a different time.. and then you can go and have your 5 years olds too!! And they do have lds dating site.... What about the singles dances and activities that dont happen on a sunday?

Fressia Vaughn said...

Nicole, my dear, you didn't read my blog to carefully. I have no one to go to those activities with me!

Trichelle said...

it's me again....well I'm going to agree with sidney. Maybe try online dating. I know that people don't like the sound of it. But I met so many fun people online. then I met my now husband. I've had to force myself to get off because it really is a fun way to meet different people.
and yes, giving up the 5 year old class would be so hard. I used to teach that class and loved it, so i do understand that.

Brad and Jamee said...

Okay, I have it Fressia I have got it! You are going to man up and attend those activity groups with tons of other single people, who are also tired of being single, and who are also nervous about meeting new people. Everyone in those groups are feeling the same way you do. Plus you get to hike, go to movies, join book clubs, attend golf lessons, or even political discussion between members; what ever you want. My point is this: your awesomly loud and you my friend are a hottie... there is no reason your single. The only thing standing in your way is meeting new people. So try those singles activity group...



In fact: Im trying to convince Brad to join them too... no not like a single one, not like im matchmakin my own man or pimpin him out! I mean for couples, so we can meet friends and have people... theres only so much Trevor time you can have, know what I mean?

Fressia Vaughn said...

Haha Jamee, you crack me up. And yes, I'm loud, but not if I don't know anyone. How about you come out here for a few weeks and make friends for me? I know PLENTY of couples I could set you and Brad up with.

Sidney Cottle said...

Maybe this Jamee does have a great point. Maybe you need to go to some singles activities....but you need to find some single girlfriends and then you won't feel so alone going to the activities looking for a man. You'll have a couple of wingmen (or wingwomen) to help ya out. Give us an update....it's been a week since you've posted. Anything changed?